So Valentine’s Day is tomorrow -- can we just agree that whether or not you have someone to share that marketing ploy holiday with, whether single, married, divorced, or engaged to wine & nutella like me, we’ve all had our fair share of dating disasters. It’s normal. It’s awkward. It’s the part of my life I regularly think there are voodoo doll replicas being handled by toddlers in an alternate universe. I’ve accepted that as the only logical answer to accurately sum up this area of my existence.
After experiencing both cultures local and abroad, dating in America can be pretty mundane. Depending on what state you’re in, you’ll pretty much encounter the same kind of guys; they’ll speak English, they’ll all love sports and beer, and probably frequent the same bars every weekend. You’ll have a solid mix of jocks, a good combo of tools, and just a sprinkle of assholes to round out this solid bunch. Anyone else I missed? Don’t worry, you get to miss them too because they’re probably gay or already taken.
The dating culture in Europe is so much different (read: better) than America’s, because you’re in the mix with people from hundreds of cultures around the world who all bring a uniqueness to the table. You’re in a continent that’s so diverse and scattered with cultures from all around the world, with ear-warming accents that cause your WhatsApp number to jump from your phone to his within minutes.
But alas, gorgeous accents and mixed breed ethnicities are not immune to the awkwardness that is the 21st century dating culture for an expat. And can we all agree that dating in your 20’s is about as awkward as life gets? I’m at a point where I know that every serious relationship will either lead to a marriage or a really nasty break-up, and both are too emotionally draining to think about or deal with.
Despite the thousands of eligible bachelors across this continent, you’ll find it frustrating when you keep running into the same 5 types of losers guys, and if you can spot the signs early on, waste no time in politely booking their first class, VIP, all-inclusive tickets to the Friend Zone. For good.
You’re welcome in advance. Here they are. Steer clear.
Remember those 5 languages he speaks, well turns out, none of them he actually speaks well. He moved around a lot as a kid and came from trilingual parents who often spoke one language to him and a different one to his brother, so while building a solid but could easily be mistaken as liquid foundation on one, he's hardly fluent in the other 4 like he claims. In fact, Spanish was his 5th language, and the most recent one he learned, so while you both are at intermediate levels, he will find the need to correct sentences in a language he doesn’t even know fully himself. And every time he corrects you, he’s always wrong.
Rich Ramone is good for two one thing. Free dinners. But even then, you’ll lose your appetite for that because his larger-than-life ego that represents the dollar amount he thinks makes up for his lack of a genuine personality, won’t make time spent together worth it. Goodbye Paella dinners and fancy restaurants. You were fun while it lasted.
CHARMING CHARLES
Because of the “ease of entrance” with his past experiences, he thinks this game will fly on you, because you’re American, hence easy, and will coyly remind you how sexy he thinks the American accent is to him, over and over, as if this validates or yields permission to talk to you like he’s sealed the deal. Because your friend has ditched you and the only way to dodge survive the night is to let him buy you your favorite drinks, when he thinks he’s secured the bases for the evening (no punT intended hehehe), this is when you head for the hills, or the bathroom -- whichever is closer. Remain in safe quarters until you see a mad dash to the door in sight. Charming Charles probably has herpes the worst intentions anyways. Mission Ditch the Douchebag Accomplished. Thanks, Roger. Over and out.
ARM-CANDY ANTONIO
But then you start noticing that when you’re out together, there’s no downtime. You’re practically attached at the hip, and the guy is more interested in flaunting you around town and at the hottest clubs like the latest accessory than actually developing a stronger bond than the superficial one built from the nods of approval he gets from other men.
If you ever want to excuse yourself to the restroom, dance with other girls, or do so much as to breathe without him over your shoulder making sure everyone knows that you two are an “item”, consider it impossible. This is a group activity to him and if you dare step more than 5-feet outside of his direct radius, you can be sure he’ll come panting down your neck asking if you need anything, to which you want to respond with “a restraining order” but you figure you can start the paperwork when you get home.
This will lead to unwarranted advances of PDA, invitations to meet the parents after a month, and the worst part, forgetting what personal space was like and wondering if this figment of Utopia existed prior.
WHATSAPP WARRIOR WILLIS
The Whatsapp Warrior more than likely has a slew of chicks he texts, probably all at once, and you know this because he’s usually always on his phone and has this abundance of false confidence that he probably gets from other women. He’ll also call you every pet name in the world, probably because of a hidden irrational fear of calling you the name of another woman he’s talking to on accident.
But oh! Whatsapp Warrior Willis is not to be confused with Dating App Douchebag David who you usually have to text first because of the copious amounts of other women that dominate the top of his Whatsapp conversation list that probably make him forget about your existence until you remind him.
Never mind the fact that this man has an active account on every dating site in the world (which, it’s 2015 -- it’s no longer taboo to admit to online dating), but when you glance and see two rows of his home screen lined with apps looking for chicks, you have to gouge the amount of desperation and shamelessness it takes to have this on your home screen.
I once heard of a Tinder date so bad, that the guy, while on a date with a Tinder match, began swiping in her face when he got bored of their conversation. Oh man, the convenience sad reality of what dating has become today.
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In all seriousness, you meet some really cool and interesting guys in Europe. And while everyone’s looking for love in all the wrong places you still can end up with a really great friend! One of the most exciting parts about being an expat is the chance to meet different people from all over the world, and whether they become a love interest or not, they still add a page to the story of the awesome experience life abroad entails.
A lot of people travel to look for love instead of letting love find them. You can do it guys. People were finding love before Tinder a few years ago (I know, what type of ancient sorcery is this?!?).
Wherever in the world you’re reading this from, I hope you enjoy your Valentine’s Day with a special someone whether that be a significant other or a jar of Nutella (hey boo), you have love to give to someone or something, so don’t waste it!
Thanks for reading! Hope my exes don’t see this. Awk. K, bye.
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